A lot of people, in the United States in particular, have grown up in the self-esteem age. According to this theory of child rearing, when kids are given a healthy self-esteem, they become more successful. It’s as if self-confidence comes out fully grown from a healthy self-esteem.
So, what do we do? We give people participation prizes. We tell our kids, “It doesn’t really matter whether you win or lose, it just matters that you tried.”
Well, I’m sorry to break this to you, but trying is not good enough. Not by a long shot.
The world rewarded excellence in the past, it continues to reward excellence now, and will probably continue to do so long into the future. That’s just the way the world works.
We are doing our children and ourselves a big disservice by feeding them this lie that by simply showing up, somehow, some way, they deserve some sort of respect or even an award.
…. because that’s not how reality works. Respect is not a door prize. It’s not something that you just show up for. It’s not some free cookie that people toss your way just because you managed to show up.
You have to earn it. And you have to earn it through excellence.
In other words, the world doesn’t care about your intentions or your motivations. It couldn’t care less about what you could have done, should have done, or would have done. None of that matters. What matters to the world are the results that you produce.
It’s all about the results that you bring to the table. That’s when the world sits up and pays attention. That’s when the real rewards are handed out.
Sure, a lot of people will try to “give you respect,” but this is lip service. You know and I know how far lip service goes. If you’re looking for the real thing, then you need to focus on becoming an excellent person.
Be good at something
Be better than good. This means believing in excellence. You have to believe that if you’re going to do something, you need to be the best at it.
If you think about it hard enough, simply doing the bare minimum just to get by is not going to cut it because there will be a trend for people to push for something better. And what happens when that takes place? That’s right, you will be left behind.
It’s as if this curve consistently moves to the right while you dig in your heels and expect the very least from yourself. You stand out like a sore thumb. Your mediocrity is exposed for all the world to see.
Make no mistake
In order to become a more successful person, you must first choose to become a more effective person. This means that you have to know what you’re doing. This means that you have to deliver on results. This means that you have to meet a certain level of expectations.
Now, this doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to hit the ball out of the park each and every time you swing that bat. But without a renewed focus on effectiveness, you’re going to get left behind. That’s how the world works.
Sadly, too many people expect to do the bare minimum. They don’t even want to try, and they complain why life is so unfair. They complain about the crappy results that they’re getting, but maybe it’s because of the crappy efforts they’re putting in.
I know that this sounds harsh. In fact, to a lot of people, it might even sound judgmental, but it is what it is. This is how the world works.
If you are suffering from any kind of anxiety because you feel stuck in your career or you are wondering about the low quality of your relationships, wrap your mind around what I have just said. Maybe you haven’t resolved to be the most effective person you could be.
The good news is that reversing the course of your life is not as hard as you think. It’s actually easier than you care to appreciate.
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